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Issue #6 November 30, 2005
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In This Edition
2. Feature Article: What Every Dad Owes His Kids
3. Laugh It Off!
4. Think About It!
5. General & Unsubscribe Info
Many of our readers will be back to work after enjoying
their Thansgiving celebrations. I hope you all had a great
Thanksgiving isn't something we celebrate here in Scotland.
What a pity, because we have so much to be thankful for: our
economy and social institutions are stable, we have great
schools and a health service,we don't suffer extremes of
weather ... The list could go on and on.
Over the years Scotland has imported many things from
America - from McDonalds to the latest movies, and even
nuclear missile bases! - so why not import a worthwhile
custom like Thanksgiving?
We could make our own version of it.
Hmm! Think I'll start a campaign!
I went for a health check up the other week and had great
news - I'm in the pink!
I was so happy that I wrote an article about it. My aim is
to encourage other fathers to get more involved in their
After all, where would our families be without us? A lot worse off,
I'd like to think !
Yet we men, apparently the world over, tend to ignore
I hope the article (below) will be helpful.
I'm working on an audio version of my parenting e-book, The
It's a complicated business - well, it is to me! - but
I've had quite a few hold-ups as I've been teaching at
Notre Dame High School for the past few weeks.
I've been standing in for one of the regular teachers, but
she should be fully recovered before Christmas, so I'll get
stuck into the audio book then.
It's great to report that the number of subscribers to our
ezine continues to grow, and the range of countries
involved is quite staggering. Great news! If you're enjoying
the ezine, tell your friends. If not - well, say nothing!
It's just gone 4pm (16:00 for our continental Europeans!)
and it's dark already. Roll on summer!
Remember, you can now access Always Another Chance! online
2. Feature Article
What Every Dad Owes His Kids
(c) Frank McGinty All Rights Reserved
The nurse was persistent. She reminded me of a Scottish
terrier, which once it finds what its looking for, growls at
it and refuses to let go. "Trust me, it's in your own
interests. Every man should come to see us at least once a
"Okay, I'll think about it."
That was like a red rag to a bull. "No, don't THINK about
it. Just do it."
Then she hit me with a guilt trip. "You should think
yourself lucky. Many men would be glad of this opportunity!
I'll put you down for Thursday morning at 9.15."
There was no arguing with that . . .
So what was all the fuss about? Well, I hadn't attended my
doctor's surgery for over a year, so they thought it was
time I was reined in. They run a 'Well Man's Clinic' these
days and they're very proud of it.
When I got there the nurse was still shaking her head and
'tut-tutting' like a mother hen. Again she hit me with her
irrefutable logic. "You put your car in for a check every
year, don't you? So what's more important, your body or
And believe it or not, the 'overhaul' was really quite
She asked a few questions, ticked a few boxes, did some
routine tests like checking my blood pressure, then - ouch!
- took a sample of blood from a vein in my left arm.
Not a word of sympathy! I got the distinct impression she'd
had all she could take from men who never think about their
health, but who create a fuss when they walk through the
"This will be divided into smaller samples,'" she said
matter-of-factly, "then sent off for analysis."
The next part really impressed me. The nurse reeled off a
whole list of things that would be tested from that one
blood sample: thyroid activity, glucose levels, PSA level
(which measures prostate activity), cholesterol level, blood
count . . . and so on.
So far, so good. A few days later I was summoned back to
the surgery for the results. I must admit, that day I was
more than a little worried and had to force myself to keep
the appointment. But I came away walking on air!
The results were normal. My blood pressure was as it should
be, there was no sign of diabetes or high cholesterol. All
fears had been groundless. I felt great.
Yet when I reached home, my heart was heavy.
You see, my own Dad died over ten years ago. His was a slow
and painful death from prostate cancer. It deeply affected
us all, but more especially his grandchildren, who adored
I'll never forget the sad look on the face of the consultant
as he told my mother: "If only we'd caught this sooner . . .
It needn't have come to this, you know."
If only, if only . . .
If only there had been a 'Well Man's Clinic' in my Dad's
day. If only he'd had the sense to have his health checked
out every so often.
But who am I to criticise? My Dad was a typical man of his
generation: - ignore health problems and they'll go away!
So what was my excuse? Despite my Dad's experience, despite
the fact that I want to be here for my own family, for the
children I teach and the ones I write my books for, I had to
be practically dragged, kicking and screaming, for a routine
Apparently I'm not alone. It would appear there are
millions of men around the globe who HAVE clinics and check-
ups readily available, but who won't go for a simple
'physical'. They'll wait until problems are far advanced -
and in many cases too far advanced!
Believe me, it feels great to know that your health is fine
and that if any subsequent tests reveal a problem, it will
be in the early stages and can be treated easily and
I now feel like shouting the good news from the roof tops -
but I'll have to make do with the internet:
Fellow Dads, get your heads out of the sand! Bite the
bullet! Gather up your courage! Use whatever metaphor or
image you like, but take yourselves down for 'a physical'
and look after your health.
Follow the example of our wives and partners, who show sound
common sense when it comes to health matters.
You owe it to yourself.
But more importantly, you owe it to your loved ones . . .
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3. Laugh It Off!
YOU KNOW YOU'RE A MOM WHEN...
* Your feet stick to the kitchen floor..... and you don't
* Your idea of a good day is making it through without a
child leaking bodily fluids on you.
* Your favorite television show is a cartoon.
* Peanut butter and jelly is eaten at least in one meal a
* Your baby's pacifier falls on the floor and you give it
back to her after you suck the dirt off because your too
busy to wash it off.
* You're so desperate for adult conversation that you spill
your guts to the telemarketer that calls and HE hangs up on
* Spit is your number one cleaning agent.
* You buy cereal with marshmallows in it.
* The closest you get to gourmet cooking is making rice
* You count the sprinkles on each kid's cupcake to make sure
* You hide in the bathroom to be alone.
* Your kid throws up and you catch it.
* Someone else's kid throws up at a party. You keep eating.
* You consider finger paints to be a controlled substance.
* You find yourself cutting your husband's sandwiches into
4. Think About It!
Children FEEL life. They smell it, roll in it, run with it,
see it all around them. Feel the world through the eyes of a
child. --- Anon
Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them.
--- Lady Bird Johnson 1912
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